Confirm or Ignore?
How many friends do you have? Could you come up with a number? Would you go to your facebook page and look for how many “friends” you have confirmed? What is a friend, and if we defined it, would there be different levels of friendship?
As we continue through the topic of friendship this month in the youth ministry, these are the types of questions we will be asking one another. We were presented with a definition last night, that if nothing else, provides us with some direction as we look to Scripture concerning friendship.
“A trustworthy peer with whom we mutually choose to lovingly “Do life together” by seeking unique access and service for God’s glory and mutual good.”
One unique quality of a friend is their willingness to lovingly help another friend recognize they might be making harmful and potentially dangerous choices.
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy (Proverbs 27:6).”
“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel (Proverbs 27:9).”
Am I the type of friend who would be able and willing to recognize another friend making potentially harmful choices? Am I able in the sense of understanding biblically what is dangerous? Do I spend time with God guarding my own life first (Matthew 7:1-5)? Am I willing? Do I have the courage to speak to a friend lovingly about sin?
Those wounds that are referenced in the first part of Proverbs 27:6 are wounds that bring healing and not harm.
If we do categorize friendship (friends, good friends, close friends, best friends), then what is it that separates the categories?
Well, that’s why we have the whole month to look to Scripture and seek the wisdom from God first, as well as one another.
Your friend (maybe),